Our friend Meera died by suicide after being stalked by her ex. The law needs to change
By Barfi Culture Team
10th December 2018

25-year-old Meera Dalal was a woman with a promising future. She had a great circle of friends in Leicester, UK, a close-knit family and a good career.

In 2013, she was on a night out with her friends when she bumped into a man she'd dated briefly as a teenager. (He cannot be named for legal reasons.)

They reconnected and began dating, and Meera's demeanour began to change. She stopped hanging out with her friends and appeared preoccupied even when she did see them.

She was asked to send him photographs of where she was, and she was constantly speaking to him on her phone or on Skype. He attempted to physically assault her best friend after she counselled Dalal to leave him. Once he even obtained the CCTV footage from a restaurant Meera had visited with her friends to check her whereabouts.

It became clear to Meera’s close friends and family that she was in an abusive relationship, but they struggled to know how to help her.

On 15 February 2016, Meera was found dead at her family home. She had died by suicide at the age of just 25.

An investigation found she had spoken to police multiple about the abuse, but refused to cooperate with officers investigating the allegations.

Her friends say the law on stalking and domestic abuse victims needs to change.

They believe she didn't cooperate with police because she was frightened her ex would retaliate against her loved ones.

"Following the death of Meera Dalal, the force identified issues in relation to the investigation and consulted the Independent Office for Police Conduct," a spokesperson for Leicestershire Police told Broadly. "Following a public complaint in the weeks after her death, the force referred itself to the IOPC, who took this as an independent investigation. The IOPC investigation was completed in December 2016 and concluded there was no case to answer for misconduct against any of the officers."

If you or a friend is in an abusive relationship and you're unsure what to do, here are some practical tips.

If you are being stalked and you are based in the UK, you can call Paladin on 020 3866 4107. If you are based in the US, you can call the Stalking Resource Center at the National Center for Victims of Crime on 855-484-2846.

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